love and respect

Our Current series “A crazy little thing called love” is pretty crazy! As we talk about what men and women need in a relationship, love and respect come up. Basically, women need love and men, respect. I really hate stuffing people in boxes like that, but have found it to be mostly true in my life, so I am buying it. However, the CRAZY thing is this:

Wives and Husbands
Ephesians 5:

22 Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord. 23For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.

25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. After all, no one ever hated his own body, but he feeds and cares for it, just as Christ does the church— for we are members of his body. “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.”[c] This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church. However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.

For the longest time “wives, submit to your husbands” really irritated me. I haven’t always had a husband that is easy to work with! My first husband didn’t believe in God and some of his ideas were really contrary to what I believed. But as I looked at vs 25 “just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her” I realized that the command for my husband was impossible to accomplish. I immediately felt compassion. I haven’t been asked to die. I haven’t been asked to do for my mate what Christ did for all of mankind for all of eternity.

ouch. WHO can do THAT?


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