Today I shared (on Facebook) a video about being free from ‘beauty expectations and pressures’
I am not a fan of sappy, but I found tears streaming down my face. I kept repeating “pretty enough, beautiful enough” as each woman became freer and freer with less and less makeup, hair extensions, photoshop treatments.
I enjoyed a friend’s comment about his daughters: “Funny, now that I have two beautiful daughters I’m so much more aware of stuff like this. Love it.”
I enjoyed how many people shared the video with their audiences. But one lovely, well intentioned friend shared with a comment about ‘lasting beauty’ being on the ‘inside’. Gosh, I was suddenly furious. (HAHA! I am in my 50’s ok, maybe that has something to do with the intensity… maybe not.)
BEAUTIFUL ON THE INSIDE. I would like to call “Bullshit” on that phrase. Here’s why….
It’s like ‘beauty on the inside’ is the consolation prize. “Well, honey, you actually aren’t very pretty, but you are so sweet. That’s all that matters.” UGH. It’s almost synonymous with ‘ugly’. Firstly, you aren’t the judge of pretty. Well, actually you are, but keep your negative thoughts to yourself. They are for you. “Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.” You get to decide what is pretty/beautiful, but maybe it’s unhealthy to try to get others to conform themselves to your idea of beauty?